Hello there! Lots of you have asked how I’ve been feeling and I thought I would do something I never thought I would do which is post some photos and share what my recent cosmetic surgery was like. So, before you read this post, if you are totally against it and open to other people’s views and opinions on the topic that is definitely okay! I would just ask if that is the case to stop reading now rather than go through my personal experience just to judge me or insult me at the end of my post. It’s hard enough to open up and share about this sort of thing. I’m doing it so people who are really curious can understand and have their own questions or curiosities addressed. Believe me, it’s no picnic to post bruised up selfies where I look awful! Not everyone has the same opinions and views on this stuff and there’s nothing wrong with that. I would just ask not to kill the confidence I had that allowed me to trust enough to put this out here. Please just click past rather than post something hurtful. I would do the same in return and I will never post judging or insulting things about people. I would just not say anything at all.
Allright. So, you clicked the read more button. If you read the About Me page I mentioned that I have always been camera shy. So, these are not easy photos for me to post. A good photo is not easy for me to post and while a good photo looks effortless, reality was probably 25 photos were taken before I had one I liked! When I first started this blog, I posted an article which was essentially my views on cosmetic surgery. I mentioned I would probably get rhinoplasty performed and about 2 weeks ago, I posted that I had the procedure scheduled on July 27. It actually hasn’t been 2 weeks yet. It has been 11 days since the procedure but I made it through and I’ll tell you a little about my thoughts and what it was like. If you have questions, I’m happy to answer them but I definitely don’t have any medical advice! That you need to ask a doctor for.
First of all, this is not the first time I’ve had cosmetic surgery so I wasn’t terrified of the surgical aspect. Actually, I’ve never been afraid of anesthesia or medical procedures. I’m terrified of things like cancer or deadly infections though. If I think it can be fixed, I feel fine about it. If I think it can’t be fixed, I’m terrified of it. However, cosmetic surgery is quite safe when it’s performed by board certified cosmetic surgeons in state of the art facilities. One big problem with cosmetic surgery is the cost. It’s quite expensive and medical insurance doesn’t cover it. As a result, people may go to board certified surgeons but not cosmetic surgeons. They may go out of the country or to doctors that are board certified cosmetic surgeons without the same level of training and experience others have. A breast augmentation can cost $3500 or $15000 or more. A lot depends on the surgeon and his or her training and experience along with variables such as location, complexity, etc. However, a woman could have the exact same procedure done within a major city with thousands of dollars in cost difference based on who performs the work. The decisions to reduce the cost, increases the risk of undesirable results and dangerous situations.
Life is full of risks. You aren’t risk free when you get in your car and drive to the grocery store but society and your upbringing hasn’t conditioned you to fear that activity. You have to trust that all the other drivers are paying attention (not texting) and not on prescription medication or doing anything that could cause a situation where you are harmed. Life comes with risks and that’s just the way it goes. You manage them according to your personal comfort level. You probably don’t think about the risks involved when you go the market to get a quart of milk or get on an airplane but they are there and some people never come home.
The one thing that made this surgery different for me was knowing I was altering a facial feature. That’s much harder to hide than something that may go wrong that can be covered up with clothing. I did a lot of research ahead of time and I had a surgeon that is extremely talented and well known so as nervous as I was, I put my trust into his hands and believed the chances of a horrifying mistake was very slim. Most people come away from rhinoplasty satisfied with the results and it’s one of the oldest and most commonly performed procedures. So, I was nervous and to be honest I just looked forward to the moment where they knocked me out and I would wake up and it would be over! I just didn’t want a change that was drastic and I can’t stand behind the surgeon providing feedback along the way. There was a good understanding of what I wanted beforehand. Photos of what I liked and didn’t like were shared that I collected from magazines. Computer images were created that I could comment on as well. I was comfortable the surgeon knew what would look good on me while resolving the undesirable features that he and I both saw and agreed existed. Having a good communication is very important and I never felt like I could ask too many questions or request too much assurance. It’s their job as the surgeon to understand your concerns and manage expectations. A good surgeon will handle that component just as well as the artistry of the surgery.
Once I laid down in the operating room, I was checking out equipment and looking around and next thing I knew, I was waking up and it was over. Waking up from this procedure was not bad and to be honest, there wasn’t a tremendous amount of pain involved. They pack your nasal passages with gauze or something so you cannot breathe through your nose and that’s weird. Also, a splint is fixed to the bridge of the nose which applies pressure and supports the new structure as it is healing. So, it feels like a giant stone is sitting in the middle of your face. If you have a breast augmentation or a tummy tuck, the pain is much different as muscles have been severed. However, with the nose job, it’s more pressure and discomfort than pain. The best way for me to describe the feeling I have had for the past 10 days is…. I feel like I got hit in the face with a ball. Have you ever been playing volleyball or basketball and had the ball smack you pretty hard in the face? Your nose feels kind of numb? That’s the feeling I’ve had since the surgery. Often, they break your nose to reset it and repair structures and that was done with mine. Combine that with congestion but it’s congestion caused by swollen nasal passages not phlegm. So, there’s no runny nose and there’s nothing to blow from your nose (you’re advised not to even attempt to blow your nose) but it feels completely stuffed up and my voice sounds very nasal. So, it’s not that bad, really.
I’ve taken a few photos along the way. Let me preface this again by saying, it’s not that painful. It looks much worse than it feels. When the nose is reshaped and there’s bleeding in that area as cartilage is trimmed and incisions are made, the blood may leak and sometimes nearly capillaries get disturbed so big black eyes and swollen cheeks are expected. Bruising gets worse over the first couple days and then begins to improve. Gravity pulls the blood and fluids in the swollen tissue downward so you get quite a bit of bruising and swelling that looks pretty bad. After about a week, the splint comes off and any removable stitches may come out. I had some around the nostrils since they were made smaller. Now, it’s day 11 and I’ve still got bruising. In a couple of days, I could adequately cover it with makeup and within a couple of weeks, I don’t think the swelling would be apparent to anyone except me. Swelling can take several months to completely reside. That’s just something you have to accept with any cosmetic surgery. Some form of swelling can persist for 6 months or more.
At this point in time, my nose is still sore and there’s swelling in the tip and I look pretty much like the photo above with a touch less swelling. I’m just waiting for swelling to reside so I can really see the results. The numbness and dull pain is something I try to ignore. I can already tell even with the swelling that I’ve got the result I want. I look a little different from the front but the profile is significantly different. It’s hard to tell with the tape but my nose is more narrow and less pronounced. I don’t have a before picture of the profile other than the one taken in the surgeon’s office since I would never allow anyone to photo me from that angle. I did take the last photo with some concealer on to take away from the distraction of the bruising so you could see my face a little better. In about 6-8 weeks, I will post the final result and include the original before photo taken in the surgeon’s office so you can really see the changes. At this point, there is too much swelling and distortion to make that comparison.
I will tell you one thing and it’s the same thing I said when I had my breast lift after I was finished having children. I wish I did it 10 years earlier. When I got a great result, I wished that I could have enjoyed that result sooner and for longer. That’s the one thing I regret about that surgery and I already know I will do it with this one too. Why didn’t I do this at age 30? I can’t beat myself up for not doing it sooner or procrastinating. I simply wasn’t at a point in my life where I was ready nor could I really afford it. This was a decision made by me and supported by my husband. He is involved too. My husband would never agree to pay for something on a credit plan so perhaps I could have done it at 30 and not been as happy because I couldn’t have afforded the same caliber of surgeon. So, when the time was right, it happened. I have to just enjoy it and be happy now. One thing I would tell anybody considering a procedure is don’t rush it. Be sure you are emotionally and financially ready for the change. Once you decide to do something, you will want it immediately but if there’s one thing to take your time with and do it right, it’s something like this. If there’s a long waiting list for the surgeon you really want, endure the wait. Thoughtful decisions will yield the best results you could possibly hope for.
I’ll be back in 6 -8 weeks with my final results post. By then, swelling will not be entirely gone but it will be less detectable. I’ll share the before profile photo that I took in the surgeon’s office. Then you will see and understand the entire process I went through from start to finish! I hope this is helpful for anyone thinking about a procedure or trying to understand different points of view when it comes to this highly controversial topic.